As we’ve learned, self-awareness is a core leadership competency and a critical part of developing emotional intelligence. Yet many leaders believe they’re more self-aware than they truly are. I’ll admit, I’ve been humbled over the years by my own blind spots.

What has become clear to me is the strong connection between self-awareness and leadership effectiveness. The most impactful leaders remain hungry to learn, honest about their growth areas, and committed to leading by example. Becoming more self-aware is not only worthwhile, but it also benefits everyone we lead.

From time to time, I ask myself a simple but revealing question: “What is it like to be on the other side of me?” I encourage you to do the same. A brief self-check can go a long way.

Here are a few questions that can help you gauge your own level of self-awareness:

  • Are you truly listening during conversations, or are you distracted by the “noise” around you? People want to be heard and understood.

  • Are you living the values posted on the wall? Your team is always watching.

  • Are your expectations genuinely clear, or do you assume you’ve communicated more effectively than you have?

  • Are you offering encouragement when it’s needed, both verbally and in writing?

  • Are you recognizing and praising others, especially in public, when appropriate?

These are just a few areas where greater self-awareness can strengthen our leadership. Mastering it is an ongoing process, and one that pays meaningful dividends for us and for those we lead.