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Are you listening to me?

Can you think of someone in your life, someone very close to you, who often says to you, "You just don't listen to me?" Well, I am guilty of that, and I am working on it. We all know the importance of listening in developing and sustaining a relationship. It is better to understand than be understood. Your team members, the people you lead, expect that of you. They want to be understood. In other words, what they say matters. To be clear, listening is not hearing. Hearing is a physical act. Listening is more intentional and emotional. When we hear, we accept sounds. We are engaged in an active versus passive activity when we listen intentionally. In his book, [...]

By Bob Fashano|2023-05-02T21:07:48+00:00May 2nd, 2023|Connecting, Leadership|0 Comments

Could you be fully present?

Often it is easy to slip into the habit of not being present. After all, as a leader, you have plenty of activities in your mind and at your office. Here's an example. Someone on your team "pops their head into your door" and asks—" Have a minute?" Oh boy, here it comes (do they mean a minute?). You are in the middle of something; it could be a critical subject that is time sensitive – you look up, respond and say something like –" may I get back to you in a little while?" Here is what just happened (I have been guilty of this) you have just sent a message, albeit unintentional--- that no one should interrupt you [...]

By Bob Fashano|2023-04-25T20:45:21+00:00April 25th, 2023|Coaching, Connecting|0 Comments

It’s a heart thing.

Hey, Leader. Leadership is a heart thing. Oh boy, here Bob goes again with the "soft "stuff. I believe there is a prevailing myth that leaders are supposed to separate their emotions from a situation and be tough-minded and rational. Here is some news for you, research over the past 20 years has shown the most influential leaders are the most open and caring—I guess "soft" wins gain. Here is the truth, folks, some of the most critical leadership competencies, such as integrity, honor, commitment, conviction, passion, and authenticity, are about the heart. Simply put, there is no faith and hope without the leader's heart. Our people expect their leaders to bring hope and hope for a better future. Author and [...]

By Bob Fashano|2023-03-08T01:52:17+00:00February 15th, 2023|Connecting, Leadership|0 Comments

The other side of leadership.

What is it like to be __________? Ok, I will finish the question, "what is it like to be on the other side of you"? As leaders, from time to time, we should ask ourselves, "how are my people experiencing me?" Whether we are conscious about this or not, they are having an experience when they interact with you. As you know, when you signed up for leadership, your every word, every action or inaction is noticed and experienced. As a leader, you have the title, the position, the authority, and the responsibility; therefore, you must lead. However, I believe that doesn't give us permission always to go first. Our people want to be valued and heard. Let's make the experience [...]

By Bob Fashano|2023-03-08T01:51:30+00:00February 7th, 2023|Coaching, Connecting, Leadership|0 Comments

Model the way.

I have a question for you, take a moment and think of a person in history whom you most admire---someone you could imagine following willingly. Who would that person be for you? I have asked that question countless times in my seminars and workshops. When I ask the follow-up question, "What would make you follow them?" The answers are as follows: "They have strong beliefs." "They are a person of principle." "They are passionate about their causes." "They live out their values." Abraham Lincoln said it best, "A good example is worth a thousand sermons." I know this to be true—so I am reminding all of us who lead people: what you do has more impact on others than all the [...]

By Bob Fashano|2022-08-24T13:03:08+00:00August 24th, 2022|Connecting, Leadership|0 Comments